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LETTER: Walk to bring light to suicide prevention

Kansans are dying by suicide at increasing rates. 477 people died by suicide in 2015. 512 in 2016. 544 in 2017. Suicide is now the eighth leading cause of death in Kansas, up from 10th, and is the second leading cause of death for individuals aged 15-24 and those aged 25-44.

Luckily, suicide is preventable. The cause of suicide is complex, but there are warning signs that can help you know that help is needed. Warning signs sound like talking about feeling stuck, being a burden on others, or having no purpose. Warning signs look like increased alcohol and drug use, isolation, giving away cherished items, and visiting others to say goodbye.

If you notice warning signs, have an honest conversation with them. Talk to them in private and listen to their story. Share your concern for them and ask directly if they have thought about suicide. A common misunderstanding is that talking about suicide will encourage someone who was not considering it.

In fact, many people have been saved because someone took the time to ask directly. Encourage them to seek treatment from a mental health provider or to talk with their doctor. Avoid debating with them or minimizing their problems. If they say that they are considering suicide, take them seriously and stay with them. Remove items that may cause harm and call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). You can also get help by texting TALK to 741741 to reach a trained crisis counselor any time of day. The most important thing is letting them know that they are not alone.

If you are noticing the warning signs in yourself, reach out to a trusted person who can help you. Mental health needs are not a sign of weakness or an indication of your worth as a human being. Mental health needs are as important as other health needs, and sometimes we need others to support us when we may not be able to help ourselves.

We can prevent suicide by teaching about the resources available and by breaking the stigma that surrounds mental illness. The Hays Area Out of the Darkness Walk on Sept. 14 will do both. The Hays Area Walk will share information about warning signs and ways to support others, while also bringing the conversation into the light and letting people know that talking about suicide is the only way to reduce suicide.

Registration will start at 1 p.m. in Municipal Park and the walk will start at 2 p.m. If you are interested in walking, volunteering or donating, go to www.afsp.org/Hays.

I walk to shine a light on a topic that is often misunderstood. I walk to show others that mental health is health. I walk because of my own history of suicidal ideation and suicide attempts. In adolescence, I battled depression accompanied by non-suicidal self-injury. As an adult, my battle has continued. Only when I was willing to seek help from a mental health professional was I able to regain control. I hope my efforts will help others get the help they need. Sign up today and join me to reduce the impact of suicide in our communities.

Kyle Carlin, Hays

Entries open for HHS homecoming parade

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Hays High School’s 2019 Homecoming is quickly approaching, and we invite you to share in the fun.  This year’s annual parade theme is Hollywood Homecoming and will be at 5 p.m. Friday, Sept. 27.  If you would like to participate in the parade, please return the attached parade application form.  You must have an application turned in to get placement in the parade. The deadline for entries is Friday, Sept. 20. 

 The Hays Police Department has stipulated that NO CANDY or ITEMS can be THROWN from floats, truck beds, etc. during the parade.  If your participates throw anything from your entry, the police will remove your entry from the parade.  Your entry participants may distribute candy or other items while walking alongside the entry.  This is a safety issue.

 Please email Kathy Wagoner at [email protected] or call her at Hays High School, 785-623-2600, for more information or to receive a parade application.

Former Hays woman who bought out Payless store for flood victims again paying it forward

Abby Tritt, formerly of Hays on “Ellen” this spring. Photo courtesy of KWCH

Courtesy of KWCH

About four months after being recognized on “Ellen” for paying out a local Payless Shoe Source store and sending shoes to help flood victims in Nebraska, Addy Tritt, FHSU grad and former Hays resident, is paying it forward again.

Tritt is now using a donation from Ellen to buy $20,000 worth of merchandise from another store going out of business, Charming Charlie. Tritt plans to donate the merchandise to women impacted by domestic violence.

“My plan is to create a “closet” for women in domestic violence shelters to come pick out a new outfit and accessories,” Tritt said. “I couldn’t have done it without Ellen.”

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Former art teacher, counselor recount story of Gus the therapy dog in print

Hays resident and former art teacher Beth DeMont is the illustrator for “The Adventures of Gus: A Therapy Dog and So Much More” series.

By CRISTINA JANNEY
Hays Post

DeMont’s watercolors depict the story of the real therapy dog, Gus, in Cindy Cook Gant’s books on positive character traits.

A very special dog was the inspiration for a new series of children books aimed at teaching character and encouraging children to talk about their feelings.

Gus, a black goldendoodle, was a therapy dog who worked along side school counselor and author Cindy Cook Gant. When Gant decided to publish a series of books based on Gus, she tapped into the talents of Hays resident and former colleague Beth Arnold DeMont.

The first book, which was released in 2018, is titled “Gus Gets a New Home.” It will be one of six books each highlighting character traits in “The Adventures of Gus, A Therapy Dog and So Much More” series.

Gant,62, based the books on the same character trait program she taught when she was a counselor in public schools. Gant and DeMont, 61, worked together in White City, where DeMont worked as an art teacher, Gant worked as a counselor and Gus served as a therapy dog.

An illustration from “Gus Gets a New Home,” which was released in 2018. The next book in the series, “Gus Goes to School,” will be out in September. DeMont also illustrated that book. Courtesy art

The first book teaches the character trait of caring. The book highlights that Gus was the only black dog in a litter of blonde pups. He overcomes challenges and difficult feelings to embrace his new home with the Gants. Questions in the book encourage adults to ask children about how they feel about the story or times in their own lives when they have felt left out, dealt with change or felt scared or nervous.

Gant said she hopes the book will allow adults and children to more freely talk about their feelings.

DeMont described Gus as the light of the school. He was a comfort for both students and staff.

Gant said children would often lay on her office floor and use Gus as a pillow. They would talk about the their problems as Gant would work on her computer. Depending on the child’s age, Gant would pretend as if Gus was whispering something into her ear and then she would tell the student what Gus thought about their problems.

“What might take be two or three sessions to accomplish without Gus,” she said, “I could do in one with Gus.”

She said Gus was very loving and seemed to know exactly what a child needed. She gave a couple of examples of when Gus aided children.

One child was crying and inconsolable. Gus licked his tears, and the child started to giggle.

Hays resident and artist Beth DeMont works in her basement studio.

Another child had missed a dose of medication. His mother thought he had taken it, but he hadn’t. The mother was on the way with the medication, but, in the meantime, the child was tearing up the principal’s office. He was throwing papers on the floor and screaming. Gus came in the office, and the boy laid down on the floor and began calmly petting him.

“His sense of what people needed was very rare and unbelievable,” Gant said of Gus.

Sadly, Gus died from cancer after Gant’s retirement from the school district.

DeMont said her hope for the books and her illustrations is they will help kids, “because Gus helped kids.”

“The main thing is that Gus was such a loving, caring dog with the kids and adults. There were a lot of adults that would need time to go pet Gus,” DeMont said. “Just to see him took your concerns away from the day if it was a bad day. He helped so many kids with anxiety and grief. It is amazing how he worked in that school. …

“You couldn’t help but love Gus,” she said. “Even if you didn’t want to, he made you. He was just one of those dogs.”

Gant said when she decided to write the books on Gus, she knew she wanted DeMont to illustrate them because she knew Gus. DeMont said she initially didn’t want to do the artwork, because she had never done book illustrations before, but this project was special.

The first book was terrifying, DeMont said. She said she had no idea about illustrating a children’s book. She reached out to a Facebook group of children’s book illustrators for feedback.

“A lot of the younger people said they really liked it because it had a vintage feel,” she said. “I think I really drew that from my Golden Books when I was little. I loved books.”

Now that she has the second book under her belt, the work is becoming more enjoyable, she said.

DeMont said she always loved to draw even when she was little. One of her early memories is getting in trouble for drawing on the side of her school building when she was in kindergarten. Art was her favorite class in school. However, in 1971 DeMonte’s family lost their home in Ashland to a fire. The family moved to Kendall, Kan., which had no art program.

She continued to pursue art in her free time, and the journalism instructor allowed her to draw illustrations for the yearbook. Her small high school closed after her junior year, so she started college a year early at Garden City Junior College. She thought she might study pre-vet, but decided she didn’t have the math background the complete that program. Her mother suggested art classes.

The first day of college art class the instructor told the students to create a color wheel and the left the room.

“I was just sitting there because I didn’t know what a color wheel was,” she said. “He came back in and said, ‘Why are you still here?’ I said, ‘I don’t know what a color wheel is,’ and he looked at me like I was crazy.”

DeMont’s teacher, Bob Scott, was kind and helped her through the assignment and mentored her through her time at the college. She eventually transferred to Fort Hays State University where she earned a degree in art education. She worked for 33 years as an art teacher before retiring in 2014.

She said teaching did not leave her as much time to pursue her own art as she would like, but it did force her to experiment with many media. She was constantly working with new media and techniques so she could pass those on to her students. She is a sculptor, a painter, has worked in oil, pencil and collage.

“I enjoy it, so when I get tired of one thing, I jump to another,” she said. “I have a lot of variety. I am not afraid to try something new. I like the challenges.”

DeMont said her favorite media continues to be drawing, just as it was when she was drawing horses in her bedroom as a child out of the Western Horseman magazine. However, these days she is working more in paint and collage, which stems from her love of color.

“The thing about illustration is that it is such a different type of art,” she said. “It is hard to explain. You are expressing yourself when you do your own artwork, but when you are doing a book, you are doing what someone gave you.”

DeMont had an exhibit in the Hays Art Council Fall Art Walk titled “Daring to Change.” She and Gant also sold autographed copies of the first Gus book at the event. DeMont will be a part of show with Hays Society of Layerists in October and another show with the group in April at the Deines Cultural Center. She also has a show coming in September 2020 with her sister at the Deines.

Gant and DeMont have another book launching in about a month in the Gus series, “Gus Goes to School.” In this book, Gus learns responsibility as he attends school to become a therapy dog as well as starts attending school with Gant.

The Gus series is published by Dorrance Publishing and is available from the publisher, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, or personally from Gant or DeMont. You can contact the author at [email protected] or the illustrator at [email protected].

Wilma E. Jackson

Logan resident, Wilma E. Jackson, passed away Aug. 28, 2019 at the Phillips County Hospital in Phillipsburg at the age of 88. She was born Sept. 29, 1930 in Phillips County, the daughter of George J. and Minnie (Kellerman) Bach.

Survivors include her son Robert of Logan; her daughter, Karen Navis of Kearney, Neb.; sister-in-law, Bettie Bach of Hugoton; five grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.

Funeral services will be at 10:30 a.m. Saturday, Aug. 31, 2019 in the Emmanuel Evangelical Church, Stuttgart, with Pastors Lee Bennight and Lorna Paulus officiating. Burial will follow in the Emmanuel Evangelical Lutheran Cemetery.

Memorial contributions may be made to the church or the Logan Community Foundation/Intergenerational Project.

Visitation will be from 5 to 9 p.m. Thursday and 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Friday at the Olliff-Boeve Memorial Chapel, Phillipsburg, with the family receiving friends from 7 to 8 p.m. Friday.

Online condolences: www.olliffboeve.com.

Olliff-Boeve Memorial Chapel is in charge of arrangements.

Richard John Proksch

Proksch

Richard John Proksch, 84, passed away Tuesday, Aug. 27, 2019, at Hutchinson Regional Hospital. Richard was born Feb. 21, 1935, in Hoisington, the son of William and Ida (Goscha) Proksch.

He was united in marriage to Pat Schremmer on April 24, 1957, in Hoisington.

Richard was born and raised in Hoisington. Richard and his family moved to Colorado and spent 45 years there. In 2000 they moved back to Hoisington. He was a manager of sanitation for Dawn Food Products. He enjoyed bowling, hunting and horseshoes.

Survivors include his wife of 62 years, Pat Proksch; two sons, Brad Proksch and wife Lisa of Hudson, Colo., and Brent Proksch and wife Anne of Montgomery Texas; a granddaughter, Shannon Proksch of Vermillion S.D.; two grandsons, Brian Proksch of Montgomery, Texas, and Austin Proksch of Hudson, Colo.; a brother Bill Proksch and wife Rita of Thornton, Colo.; and a sister, Sue Hickel of Larned.

He was preceded in death by a son Brian and a sister Virginia Kaiser.

Friends may call 9 a.m. to 8 p.m. Thursday with family to receive friends from 6 to 8 p.m. with Knights of Columbus Rosary will begin 7 p.m., all at Nicholson-Ricke Funeral Home.

Mass of Christian Burial will be at 10:30 a.m. Friday, Aug. 30, 2019, at St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church, celebrated by Father Anselm Eke.  Burial will follow in St. John Church Cemetery, Hoisington, with military honors.

Memorials may be made to St. John Cemetery Fund or St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, in care of Nicholson-Ricke Funeral Home, PO Box 146, Hoisington, KS 67544.

Hays students explore downtown during annual March to Main

Hundreds of students from Fort Hays State University, Hays Academy of Hair Design and NCK Tech gathered at the FHSU quad Tuesday night for the annual March to Main.

School officials and faculty as well as elected officials joined the students in the annual parade.

The Press catered a free meal, and students were entered to win $3,000 in prizes. During the next two weeks, students can complete activities downtown to win even more prizes.

The event seeks to welcome students to Hays and connect them with businesses in the city’s core. It is sponsored by the Downtown Hays Development Corp., Hays Convention and Visitor’s Bureau and the three participating schools.

Allene Marie Hogan

Allene Marie Hogan, 93, died Aug. 27, 2019, at Ave Maria Village, Jamestown, N.D. She was born June 20, 1926, on the family farm north of Bushton, Kan., the daughter of George and Hanna (Schlessiger) Heiken. Allene graduated from Holyrood High School in 1944.

Allene was a member of St. Mary’s Catholic Church and the Altar Society. She enjoyed family, cooking, church activities, canning and square dancing.

On Jan. 24, 1945, she married LeRoy Hogan at St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Holyrood.

She is survived by her husband of 74 years, LeRoy Hogan; and their three sons, D.A. Hogan and friend Kim of Tarkio, Mo., David Hogan and wife Barb of Jamestown, N.D., Dan Hogan and wife Toni of Bartlesville, Okla.; a brother, Edward Heiken and wife Margie of Blaine, Wash.; sister-in-law, Mary Heiken of Bartlesville, Okla.; six grandchildren, Shelly, Tom, Patrick, Collin, Linda, and Sean Hogan; and three great-grandchildren, Ruby, Flint, and Rose.

She was preceded in death by her parents, a brother, Harvey Heiken, a sister, Betty Rose Shuler, and brother-in-law, Gilbert Shuler.

Vigil and Rosary will be at 7 p.m. Friday, at Nicholson-Ricke Funeral Home, Hoisington. Mass of Christian Burial will be at 10 a.m., Saturday, Aug. 31, 2019, at St. Mary’s Catholic Church, Holyrood. Burial will be at 1 p.m. Saturday at Hillcrest Memorial Park, rural Great Bend, Kan.

Memorials may be made to the Ave Maria Village or St. Mary’s Catholic Church in care of Nicholson-Ricke Funeral Home, PO Box 146, Hoisington, KS, 67544.

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